Sensuality is Such A Potent Medicine

Is 2024 the year you anchor into your sensuality and let it fill your cup?

Join us in a community devoted to just that. Here’s what’s on the horizon ✨

✨PUERTO RICO Retreat: Unleash Your Inner Video Vixen February 5-10th. 1 spot left on site, 3 spots for local residents! Learn More

✨LA P💎ssy Empowered Performance Class: Our 5th round begins on March 29th (10 weeks) and culminates in a performance at the next P💎ssy Empowered Party in June. Now open for enrollment with Early Bird Discount. Learn More

✨ VIRTUAL: Erotic & Alive Virtual Membership is chock full of rituals, resources, courses and monthly live classes. Join us for anytime! The next class: Jan. 16th. Learn More

Other places on the horizon: Bay Area & San Diego in spring. Where else should we rendezvous? 😍

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Surrender to Receive Your Dreams

Have you ever brought a big juicy dream to life, only to feel a major contraction afterwards? OR have you noticed that the contractions are strong as you are bringing a dream to life?

In some cases its immediate, in others there may be a lag, but any matter what, it can be a very frustrating experience.

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Let’s call this the process of contraction and expansion. It can happen anytime, after a creative project coming to fruition, a fun sexual encounter, career goal met, dream brought to life. It can happen during the expansion itself.

The exact feeling varies. Maybe its fear, despair, grief, shame, numbness. Overall, its a contrast from the elation or excitement of experiencing a success or bringing a dream to life.

I believe it happens for a number of reasons, but the main one that I have come to realize can be summarized as upper limiting, a term coined by Gay Hendricks that is outlined in his eye opening book, “The Big Leap”. (This is a book that I’ve re-visited many times and have been recommended in spiritual spaces and business coaching spaces alike.)

To summarize, the concept of upper limiting is something that occurs when things are going well in our lives. It can have many triggers, but the more we become aware of its presence and these triggers, the more we can recognize upper limiting as it arises.

Why? On reason is that it is a result of habitual mental and emotional patterns that we have reinforced over our lifetime. Practiced ways of thinking and being that your mind, body, and spirit have grown accustomed to over the years, thus reinforcing neural pathways over time. These are ways that our brains and bodies feel at home in a certain way of being.

When we experience a meteoric or sometimes even gentle rise in our joy, positivity, pride, accomplishment these commonly reinforced ways of being attempt to stabilize once again, often sabotaging the uplifting feelings.

It can also be understood as the shadow side of the success.

For example, in this weekend’s Virtual Retreat: Brave, Badass New Year, we identified our biggest struggles and also our greatest celebrations of 2022. Afterwards, we reflected on the relationship between these two elements.

For me personally, 2022 was a year of major ACTION- I brought so many dreams to life including producing and performing in 4 Pussy Empowered Parties, leading 3 Pussy Empowered Performance 10 week classes, expanding my solo burlesque performance career, writing, recording, & performing my first song, moving out of my home in Topanga and arriving in the Caribbean commencing a period of travel I’ve always dreamed of, amongst other accomplishments. (Yes, I’m flexing!! Its a good muscle to strengthen- you should practice sometime!)

But I also want to illustrate my point, amidst all of this excitement and up-leveling, I began experiencing major anxiety reminiscent of my youth. Anxiety runs in my family and its something that I experienced on the daily growing up. I have had a long journey of learning to calm my nervous system and find true, regular grounding. This process has gifted me a more common state of calm and stability compared to how my internal realm used to feel like on the regular.

Still, at times where I push myself out of my comfort zone, when I’m triggered fear, making big life changes, when I fall off my daily rituals, when I have too much sugar or coffee, and sometimes for no identifiable reason, I experience flare ups.

This fall, I experienced an extended flare up. A contraction to all of the expansion I was experiencing as my mind, body and spirit tried to catch up with all the growth. This anxiety was an aspect of all the action that was being activated. It made sense when I became aware of this this relationship between the expansion and contraction I was experiencing simultaneously.

So, yes, often, the expansion and contraction is happening in conjunction. I like to use waves as a metaphor- that ebb and flow is something we must learn how to surf, to stabilize ourselves amidst it all. Because these waves are inevitable.I don’t foresee that we ever truly reach a point in life where we don’t experience these waves to some extent. However, we CAN get to know our patterns, strengthen the practices that help us stay centered as we continue to rise.

How do we do that? How can we best ground and support ourselves along the way? Here are my tried and true Pussy Empowered solutions to practice before, during, and after our dreams come true. These solutions can be used in the midst of a contraction flare up, and/or ideally daily as a way to continue staying present and processing along every moment of your journey.

Pussy Empowered Solutions:

1.Surrender

Affirmation: I surrender to the life of my dreams

Surrender is the foundation of my Pussy Empowered™ Framework because it anchors us into the present. And the present is where our power truly lies.

Using our senses, aka sensuality, we can access this moment and move from the chatter of our mind down into the reality of our bodies. Meeting our bodies in the moment is a way to remember that the earth’s gravity is still holding us, that our breath is still fueling us, that likely in the now moment we are safe. These practices allow our nervous system to really feel that.

I have found that having a daily method to access surrender is critical when working with feelings of worthiness, enoughness, anxiety, and during times of elation. Here’s how you can incorporate surrender into your routine:

Action step:

Create a daily ritual that invokes the blissful feeling of surrender in your mind body and spirit:

Some suggestions:

• Nature: Spend time in nature

• Earthing: Put your feet directly on the earth

• Breathe: Take deep, intentional breaths

• Touch yourself: let your hands graze across your skin and get present to the sensation while reminding yourself that you are safe in your own hands.

• Embodiment: Create a playlist for surrender or use this one and use it to get into your body

  Resources:

1.Download my Surrender to Radiant Calm Ritual, a guided daily grounding ritual, taken from my own personal daily practice, filmed on the beach on a breathtaking beach in Puerto Rico. Download here.

2. Listen to my Pussy Empowered Podcast episode, Surrender to Being, to explore this theme more. Listen here.

3.Listen to my Pussy Empowered Playlist: Surrender to Being. Listen here

2. Alchemize

Affirmation: I love myself in this moment, just as I am.

Alchemy is a necessary tool for staying present amidst the waves of life. This is an invitation to continually digest and reflect on your experiences. It is a practice of meeting yourself exactly where you are, as you are, again and again. Embedding methods for alchemizing emotions and experiences into your everyday can help nip prolonged experiences of contraction in the bud.

Action step:

Create a daily ritual that allows you to alchemize whatever emotions or experiences are present for you:

Some suggestions:

• Dance: put on music that matches the mood you’re in and dance with/through whatever comes forward. Laugh, cry, roll on the ground- whatever feels the most true. You can change the music to match your mood as you go along. Try setting an allotted time for dance daily or allow a less limited time for when you can feel a need to go deeper.

• Vocal Activation: feel into your body. Where is this emotion, sensation most alive? Take a deep breath into this space and on your exhale, make sound with your voice to mirror this feeling. Do this as many times as you are called to. Try doing it for a period of 5,1 0, 20 minutes and watch how things shift

• Journal: Free write without judgment. Allow your hand to move across the page and spill everything that is on your heart and mind. “If I get it all down on paper, it's no longer inside of me threatening the life it belongs to” - “2am” Anna Nalick
  
  

  Resources:

1.Download this Alchemize your 2022 PLAYsheet to reflect on 2022 or for what the process of alchemy can look like. Download here.

2. Read this blog post on the Pussy Empowered element: Alchemize Your Herstory

3. Explore these Pussy Empowered PLAYlists designed for feeling and moving through different moods and states of being. Listen here..

3.CELEBRATE

Affirmation: I am so proud of myself!

Yes, celebrate! Set aside quality time to revel and bask in your accomplishments. Even the teeny tiny ones. Getting in a habit of celebrating reinforces the neural pathways in your brain associated with self love, joy, self esteem, gratitude. This is an integral part of creating/living the life of your dreams because without out it, we are simply on an endless ladder seeking accomplishment after accomplishment. When really the reason we seek to accomplish anything is because we “think we’ll feel better in the having of it” as Abraham Hicks says. Taking time to appreciate and acknowledge your wins from small to large gives you the fuel to keep going and the recognition you deserve along the way.

Action step:

Create a daily ritual that invokes the feeling of celebration.

Some suggestions:

• Dance": yes, dance is a suggested step in each category because it really works, its free, powerful and it can never be too much! Try blasting this Pussy Empowered PLAYlist: Live Rapturously

• Say it out loud- proclaim, brag, express appreciation out loud to let yourself hear how badass you are. It feels so good to say “I really did that shit!” and let this truth resonate in your body. This practice is amplified when you allow someone else that you trust to be able to hold your joy, to witness you.

• Bask: set aside time just to bask. That means clear your to do list for part or all of a day after an expansive experience to just be. Be a body, listen to music, stare, take a bath, eat well, order in or eat out etc.
  

  Resources:

1.Listen to this Pussy Empowered podcast episode: Live Rapturously

2. Listen to this PLAYlist to invoke rapture in your spirit. Listen here.

What to avoid:

• Interacting and attempting be acknowledged & celebrated with people who tend to be debbie downers, tend to be jealous, or take joy in raining on your parade.

• Overscheduling yourself or filling your day with tasks or experiences that tend to bring you down directly after an expansive experience.

• Try not to be hard on yourself. That is, focus more on your wins than what could have been done better. Things could always be done better but thats not a good reason to be mean to yourself!

• Numbing out with things that tend to have a negative effect on your mind, body, spirit afterwards

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Demystifying Stripping, Decolonizing Sexual Empowerment: A Conversation Series

The film Strip Down, Rise Up has premiered on Netflix. Leading up to its release, unresolved feelings about my less than optimal experience being filmed for a class in a modality called S Factor, which was filmed for the purpose of being included in the documentary.

Next came absolute outrage upon watching the finished film which was releases a little over a week ago. Navigating the waves of this experience has been quite the ride.

After sharing my uapologetic, non- sugar coated truth on IG live, the video went viral. It was reposted and shared by many womxn all over the world. My DMs filled with shares & I've been receiving opportunities to speak to this ever since, including in an interview by Buzzfeed. Its been energetically a lot to navigate which is what I want to be transparent with you about.

The best way I can describe how this experience has been is:activating.

From the release of the trailer stirring up unresolved discomfort with my involvement, to absolute outrage upon watching the finished film upon its release a little over a week ago, to navigating the waves of this experience.

Not only that, but my video went viral, shared by many womxn all over the world, my DMs filled with shares, & I've been receiving press opportunities ever since. My voice was included quite a bit in this BuzzFeed article.

As a result of this experience, I have felt called to lean into this conversation and inspired to create this conversation series,

Demystifying Stripping, Decolonizing Sexual Empowerment.

In this episode I break down why this discussion is so important and why creating awareness around this topic is an integral step towards true empowerment. Hear about my journey of using my voice to speak out, what I have learned from this experience, how I am choosing to be a part of the solution, and how I’m inviting you to be a part of the solution to.

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Meet the badass April Haze, stripper, lyra aerialist, activist, pole dancer, and fellow Latina who was also interviewed for the Buzzfeed Article I was also interviewed for last month. We got to talking about experiences of discrimination in the pole dance industry, healing relationships with the male gaze in the club, and how the culture we are raised in impacts our perception of sexuality and what happens when that comes into conflict with the white gaze.

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If you don't already know, you're about to find out that Nadia Sharif is a Badass. In the world of pole dance and general bad bitchery, she is well known and widely respected for her fiery, bold movement style and commitment to using her voice to speak truth.

In this chat we'll learn about how she went from corporate career in technical engineering to pole performer, pole engineer, teacher and founder of Twisted Movement dance wear. We talk about Nadia's recent video speaking out about the problematic use of the word "exotic" that went viral and what that experience has been like. We talk about the sex worker discrimination that has become apparent in the industry of pole dance as it has grown and we talk about Nadia’s experiences as an American woman of Mexican, Pakistani heritage plus so much more.

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Samantha Sun is a performer, stripper,  host of Stripper Life Drawing ELSC  and holder of so much knowledge on the intricacies of internet law & beyond. In this chat we address the importance of proper education around consent, the intersection in conversation around sex work, sex traffic, & immigration, interacting with cultural stereotypes in performance and centering policy change. DAMN there's a lot of goodness in this episode.

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Misha Delores is an embodied movement facilitator and learning & development consultant for witches, mystics & spiritual babes of color.

Misha shared about her experiences working in mission based wellness companies in which internal practices did not align with their forward facing values. And what ensued when leadership was called in to accountability.

From there we discuss using your voice, creating boundaries, and what it means to hold responsible space in which toxic patriarchal power dynamics are not simply replicated, but continually called into question. Also, a vision for empowered leadership to create change and get into integrity when harm has been done in order to create pathways for change and growth.

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This convo w/ Jozey covered a LOT of ground.
From the effects of colonization & Catholicism on sexuality, to stripper unions & how to be an ally to s3x w0rkers.

@juicy.jozey is a str!pper, online cam girl, & board member of @soldiers_of_pole_
If you learned something or were inspired by this conversation you’re welcome to tip Jozey at cash.app/$/juicyjozey

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Stripper & Activist, AMD aka The Queen of Sexy continually uses her platform & privilege to gather, organize, and have the conversations that need to be had.

AMD is Host of @yesastripperpodcast, Coordinator of @soldiers_of_pole_ and Co-founder of @everybodyvisible

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Arouse the Sacred Erotic this MAY

Today I came with my Pussy in the sunlight...

In a pocket of golden rays underneath a canopy of oak trees, breasts towards the blue sky. As I climaxed, my conscious mind dispersed into an explosion of sparkling iridescence filling my third eye. Waves of pleasure connecting me to the matter of the cosmos themselves. It filled me with so much inspiration that I poured into movement that birthed a playlist devoted to the feeling of Spring. Sex. Magic.

With Spring upon us here in the Northern hemisphere, I awaken into my own inner Spring time, aka the follicular phase, brimming with ideas and visualizations, excited with the possibilities of a new cycle even as the external moon wanes.

It seems like clockwork, the Spring beckons me full force towards my Sex Magic practice. It's a longing that the flowers in bloom remind me of every time- an opening, an expression of unapologetic radiance. It fills my heart with hope and dreams and feeling of blossoming myself.

For the past two years, I have devoted the Spring to sharing my work around fanning the flames of sensuality, and the erotic. Maybe you joined me for my annual email course, where in the past, I framed this work around the pagan holiday, Beltane.

Today, with the intention of decolonizing my Pussy Empowerment, I am questioning whether the European roots of Beltane is a framework I want to continue centering. However, the essence of Spring undoubtedly continues to ignite my devotion to sensual and sexual awakening.

Thats why this May, in my brand new Membership Program, The Movement, we will be devoting the whole month to basking in, inspiring, Arousing the Sacred Erotic.

Pussy Empowered: The Movement is a membership program where each month we will dive into an area of the 9 Elements of Pussy Power. We will do this with live gatherings in community and pre-recorded material that you can explore at your own pace. There will also be goodies like bonus events, snail mail, and much more.

In May, we will be devoting the month to
Arousing the Sacred Erotic

What does this entail?
Multiple live gatherings including a
✨Forum Discussion
✨Pussy Empowered Dance Class,
✨ Dance Party
centered around this theme.

&

A library of tools and rituals including:
✨Highest Sensual Self Meditation
✨Pussy Proprioception Ritual
✨Sex Magic Masterclass
✨Sensual Movement Ritual
& So much more

If you feel the call turning you on & tugging at your spirit, your bonus for trusting that intuitive nudge & signing up by this Friday, 4/9/21 at midnight is:

✨A 45 min. Pussy Empowered Breakthrough 1:1 session w/ me if you choose to sign up month to month
OR
✨ A quarterly 90 min. 1:1 w/ me if you choose to sign up for the year

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Live Rapturously

Live Rapturously

Make rapture your North Star and fill your life with play

The Problem

• Centering the Shadow: In the sphere of empowerment, there are many ways in which the shadow and trauma are the primary focus. When we center these part of ourselves without equal or more commitment to joy, we constantly feel like a work in progress and lose sight of the opportunity we have to enjoy our lives

• Settling for Crumbs: In so many ways, society teaches us to settle for crumbs, to not rock the boat and accept mediocrity

• Narratives of Suffering: Many parts of our femininity are mired in vocabulary and expectations of suffering. Such as our monthly “curse” aka menstrual cycle. But there is a world beyond these narrow views of what it means to be a feminine being

The Pussy Empowered Solution

Healing doesn’t have to be all hard work and you don’t have to do it alone

• Blissipline: You will learn to put equal or more focus on how to fill your day and life with pleasure at every opportunity

• Live Rapturously: You will dare to create the life of your dreams rather than letting the cards fall where they may

• Permission: You will learn to play more guiltlessly. And you’ll be held in a community that will celebrate with you, cheer you on, and inspire you

Ready to Live Rapturously?

What are the other 9 Elements of Pussy Power?

More resources on Live Rapturously

Live Rapturously Podcast Episode

Big Pussy Energy w/ Lizzy Jeff

Parade Your Power

Parade Your Power

Move through the world anchored into your embodied, authentic power while taking up space unapologetically

The Problem

• Shrinking Ourselves: Many of us receive messages and conditioning that it is not safe to move through the world as a woman from a very young age. Thus we make ourselves small so as not to draw attention to ourselves and not stir the water

• Empowerment is not a Theory: Many modalities that teach empowerment are mostly theoretical or compartmentalized. When it comes to implementing this in real time, it can be very hard to put into practical use

• Lack of Safe Space: It is not often that we are in containers where we feel safe to experiment with what feels powerful in our bodies vs what feels performative or inauthentic

The Pussy Empowered Solution

• Parade: Power is a practice. You will have opportunities to practice express yourself in the presence of community, where you will learn how to stay present, aware, and enjoying your body even with eyes on you

• Posture: You will learn how to carry yourself so that you feel grounded into your strength and power from deep within, while commanding attention and earning respect with the language of your body

• Boundaries: You will learn to set boundaries and speak your truth by grounding into the wisdom of your body

Ready to Parade Your Power?

What are the other 9 Elements of Pussy Power?

More resources on Parade Your Power

Wet Ass Pussy Power

Parade Your Power Podcast Episode

Never Forget You're a Bad Bitch

Taking Up Space

Speaking Your Truth

Untame Your Wild Hips

Untame Your Wild Hips

Break free from linear movement and liberate your curves

The Problem

• Holding Shame: Our hips are home to the most sexualized parts of our bodies. Many of us hold shame in this area as we shrink our hips to fit into a linear world that makes us feel uncomfortable for just being in our natural form.

• Right Angles: We constantly put our bodies in right angle chairs which cuts off circulation in our hips, womb, and lower back, causing stiffness that can result in painful misalignment in the present and down the line.

The Pussy Empowered Solution

• Untame: You’ll learn to activate your hips and enjoy the feeling of life coursing through your hips, ass, womb, reproductive organs

• Reclaim: You' will reclaim the right to inhabit your curves whether or not it’s in a sexual way. Gain confidence and comfort in connection to your hips and their wild nature

• Express: You will explore dances from around the world that center hip movements including belly dance, erotic dance, samba, twerking, and latin dance led by lifelong performer & aficionado, Alyssa Aparicio

• Learn: You will learn about the herstory of these dances from fertility ritual, to performance, to sex work, to social dance

Ready to Untame Your Wild Hips?

What are the other 9 Elements of Pussy Power?

More resources on Untame Your Wild Hips

Untame Your Wild Hips

Root Chakra Activation w/ DJ Moonflower

Arouse the Sacred Erotic

Arouse the Sacred Erotic

Free your authentic sexuality and root into profound intimacy with your erotic self.

The Problem

• The Double Edged Sword: Our society teaches us that our value is placed on how we express our sexuality— dragging us between the extremes of virgin or whore, villainizing us either way based on puritanical ideals rooted in colonization and Christianity.

• Inadequate Sex Education: In the US and in many places around the world, sex education is extremely limited which has kept us in the dark about the function of our reproductive organs and how to interact with our sexuality in a healthy way.

• External Dependency: We are taught that our sexuality exists only in relation to others and that our fulfillment/satisfaction comes from outside of us, rather than learning how to connect with the nature of our erotic selves whenever we so desire.

The Pussy Empowered Solution

• Intimacy: You will create a relationship of respect and intimacy with your innate eroticism

• Awareness: You will gain an understanding of your sex organs and how pleasure nourishes your mind, body, and spirit

• Celebration: You will reclaim the joy, bliss, and creativity available to you in connection with your sexual energy.

Ready to Arouse the Sacred Erotic?

Want to better understand what I mean by the “Sacred” in Sacred Erotic?

Check out this video:

What are the other 9 Elements of Pussy Power?

More resources on Arouse the Sacred Erotic

Pussy Empowered Podcast Episode: Arouse The Sacred Erotic

Conjure Your Intuitive Womb

Conjure Your Intuitive Womb

Learn to trust yourself and make decisions from the depths of your being.

The Problem

• Overanalyzing: From a young age we are taught that logic & analysis is superior to all else, including our intuitive connection.

• Gaslighting: Many of us have experiences where we are encouraged to mistrust what we know in our depths to be true. We learn to defer out power to others who are considered to know “better” than us including parents, teachers, and doctors.

• Disassociation: Many of us feel deeply disconnected from our womb space due to societal perceptions of sexuality & menstruation, trauma, and shame that resides here.

• Where’s the instruction manual? Likely, no one ever taught you just how to access and operate your intuition. And thus it remains an elusive mystery.

The Pussy Empowered Solution

• Womb Awareness: You will develop a connection with your womb space from within which will allow you to become deeply in tune with your core.

• Body Wisdom: You will practice connecting to and integrating intuitive wisdom in real time, not just in theory.

• Conviction: You will learn to recognize your truth and decipher when fear, overanalyzing, or the voices of others are trying to interrupt your deeper knowing.

Ready to Conjure Your Intuitive Womb?

What are the other 9 Elements of Pussy Power?

More resources on Conjure Your Intuitive Womb

Conjure Your Intuitive Womb Podcast Episode

Surrender to Being

Surrender to Being

Anchor into the present, where your true power lives in real time.

The Problem

• Overanalyzing: From a young age we are taught that logic & analysis is superior to all else.

• Overthinking: It’s so easy for us to get so caught up in our heads that the present simply eludes us.

• Worth=Productivity: In a society built on capitalism, we are taught that our worth is wrapped up with how much we can accomplish. We are hooked on doing and have forgotten how to just be.

• Past & Future Tripping: Many of us are fixated on the past or the future, but not equipped to anchor into the NOW.

The Pussy Empowered Solution

• Sensuality: the senses are a portal to the present. Learning to ground into the senses continually brings us out of our heads and into the moment.

• Presence: Practicing being here and now in our bodies gives us access to our ability to act, respond to our needs/desires, and ground ourselves.

• Embracing Emotions: Instead of ignoring how we feel, we process our emotions and allow our feelings to inform us about what needs our attention internally and externally.

Ready to Surrender to Being?

What are the other 9 Elements of Pussy Power?

More resources on Surrender to Being:

Surrender to Radiant Calm Ritual

Surrender to Being Pussy Empowered Podcast Episode

Alchemize Your Herstory

ALCHEMIZE YOUR HERSTORY

Develop your self awareness & understand where you are on your personal journey, in relationship with your ancestors, & in the greater context of society past & present.

The Problem

• Many of us blame ourselves for how we interact with the world without stepping back & gaining perspective of the greater context at play and having compassion for where we are on the journey

• The majority of the womxn’s empowerment landscape fails to address how intersectionality ie race, ethnicity, class, gender impacts our relationship to our power and the greater power dynamics at play in society

• Herstory repeats itself when we do not take the time to learn from the past

The Pussy Empowered Solution

• Actively reflect on your relationship with your power, with self, and position within the context of society at large

• Acknowledge that you do not exist in a bubble & you are not alone in your experience

• Engage in deeper conversations with individuals from all walks of life and be pro-active in filling in your blind spots

• Learn to make intentional choices that will create the life you wanna live & the world you wanna live in, in real time

What are the other 9 Elements of Pussy Power?

Ready to Alchemize Your Herstory?

Image: Borinquen Preciosaby Alyssa Aparicio & Talltree aka Flash The Abyss

More resources on Alchemizing Your Herstory:

Demystifying Stripping & Decolonizing Sexual Empowerment

My Commitment to Anti-Racism

Embrace Your Lunar Prowess

Embrace Your Lunar Prowess

Creating an intimate understanding of & relationship with your cyclical nature.

The Problem

• We live in a patriarchal world that sees time as linear and mimics the solar cycle. The expectations of our daily lives mimic the 24 hr hormonal cycle of men which puts unrealistic expectations on the nature of our bodies as individuals who experience menstrual cycles

• The majority of education systems around cycles neglect to teach us about our reproductive systems in any comprehensive way

• Many of us suffer in silence in regards to our relationship with our cycles: from period pain, to pms, to fertility, to shame.

• As a collective we remain in the dark about this aspect of ourselves and others

The Pussy Empowered Solution

• Learn how your monthlong menstrual cycle impacts your mind, body, spirit, & emotions

• Engage with cyclical living by integrating what you learn about the ebbs & flows of your cycle into your daily life in a practical way

• Engage w/ ritual, trainings, & conversations that teach you how to understand your body better, validate your body’s wisdom

• Break free from the overarching narrative of suffering & shame attached to your cycle

• Surrender to the flow of your power, rather than swim against the current of your nature

What are the other 9 Elements of Pussy Power?

Ready to Embrace Your Lunar Prowess?

Image: Full Moon by Alyssa Aparicio & Talltree aka Flash The Abyss

More resources on Embracing Your Lunar Prowess:

2021 Lunar Calendar

What No One Told You About Menstrual Pain

Reading List

Encounter Your Secret Garden

Encounter Your Secret Garden

Creating an intimate understanding & awareness of your physical Pussy

The Problem

• Most of us are raised with inadequate education around our reproductive system

• Subsequently, many of us don’t know how to locate, care for, interact with, or even name these mysterious part of our bodies. What goes unnamed, goes mis-understood

• Many spaces devoted to womxn’s empowerment speak about Pussy as an intangible, elusive idea, rather than a physical, tangible place on our bodies.

The Pussy Empowered Solution

There’s nothing woo woo about Pussy Power.

Here’s how you will be empowered in your relationship with your physical, tangible Pussy via The Pussy Empowered approach:

• Acquaint yourself with your reproductive system by learning proper names and functions for your anatomy ie cervix, uterus, vagina, clitoris, ovaries, & more

• Enhance your proprioceptive & interoceptive awareness of your Pussy - meaning, the somatic awareness of these parts of your body, and learning to hear the messages these parts of your body are communicating to you ( just as your stomach let you know when you are hungry, or your eyes let you know when you are tired, your Pussy has much to share with you)

• Engage w/ ritual, trainings, & conversations that teach you how to connect with your own anatomy intimately and anchor into your bodily connection, wisdom, & pleasure.

• Give your Pussy the respect, dignity, & love it deserves by creating intimacy with this part of your body

What are the other 9 Elements of Pussy Power?

Ready to Empower Your Pussy?

Image: Altar I by Alyssa Aparicio & Talltree aka Flash The Abyss

9 Elements of Pussy Power

Pussy Empowered:

An intersectional, wholistic approach to empowerment integrating mind, body, spirit & emotion.

Sex & sex worker positive.

From inner truth —> physical activation —> to embodied expression.

It’s not just theory, it’s practical, tangible application to your everyday life.

9 Elements of Pussy Power:

Curious to learn more?

Tune into my explanation of these areas of exploration via Pussy Empowered Podcast Episode 2:

9 Elements of Pussy Power

Are you wondering, WTF is Pussy Power Anyway?

Strip Down, Rise Up : From the Perspective of a Stripper on Set

Today marks the release of Strip Down, Rise Up, the Netflix Documentary about the empowering impacts of pole dance. I participated in the filming as part of a class in a modality called S Factor. Upon watching the trailer when it was released a few weeks back, unresolved thoughts and feelings about my experience during filming rose to the surface once again.

On of my main points of discomfort is in the fact that the trailer entirely omitted stripping from an implied complete conversation on those who interact with the pole.

This was a reflection of the experience I had while working as a professional stripper at the time of filming. I felt deeply unseen and out of alignment in a classroom where the context of history, race, class was never addressed in regards to pole. Nor was education or advocacy on this topic ever on the table.

I am currently in the process of digesting and sharing about this experience. Hear my thoughts below:

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2021 Lunar Calendar & Guidebook: A Tour

Creating our Lunar Calendar was quite the experience. From traversing across the deserts of California to interacting with one another via whistle because Erik needed to be that far away from me to get the perspective required for each photo and there was no cell service. It was an adventure that we daydreamed into existence as a part of our photo series Flash the Abyss.

Each photo was taken with the actual moon versus photo shopped in. And my intention in embodiment was to illicit the way that lunar phase feels on an internal and external level.

We hired Mystic Souls Art Design to create our vision of a lunar spiral that indicates the dates and days of the week across the year.

Here’s the finished product:

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A tour of the calendar:

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A Behind the Scenes Look:

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Lunar Prowess Guidebook

Our 18 page digital ebook is a how-to manual for lunar living. We explore each phase with our photographs and invitations for practical ways to invite la luna into your life.

Video Series

Along the way we even made a video series from the footage:

We hope that you’ve enjoyed what we have created from our time adoring and aligning with the Moon!

Feel called to invite the moon into your life? Order a copy of our calendar & guidebook of your own here:

Self Taught: Musings On Freeing My Body from the Tyranny of Technique

After a fairly recent live performance, a woman from the audience came up to me and asked “are you self taught”? “No” I snapped at her as I retreated, ticked off. If only she could have seen all the hours I’d trained. Countless days and nights. Ballet teachers scolding me and being encouraged to saran wrapping my stomach (can’t believe I did that one). Weeks of why whole body being sore and beyond exhaustion. Class after sweaty class pushing my body beyond its limits. But I wouldn’t lie to myself. I know that along this journey my technique has never been my strongest suit. Even with all the training, my inner critic has been loud and realistic. She knows her limitations. 

So when this woman asked me on this day, she touched a spot of insecurity that runs across my lifetime. Even after all that work, it still looks like I’ve never had proper training, huh?

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But when I reflect on this innocent question, I remember that there has been a pivot in my relationship with dance. Or at least in my perception of my relationship with it. I’ve always loved to dance with abandon, with my whole heart and soul. But for a long time I never thought that was enough. At some point I realized that my gift has always been in the passion itself. That I was never here to be the “best” dancer. That my body itself refused to be tamed no matter how hard I tried to tame her. 

In that sense, yes, I have been self taught. I have taught my body to be free. Or rather I have listened deeply to her and asked her what she wants most. Enough to know that freedom is always the answer in some form or another. She has taught me what it is to be present. To enjoyyyy the subtleties of being in this human form.  To not miss out on this physical experience in favor of an anti-carnal spiritual dogma, or for satisfaction of the gatekeepers who decide what makes a good vs bad dancer, or in favor of a narrative that believes one must truly suffer for their art.  I love to learn and to grow the vocabulary of my hips, hands, feet. And I taught myself how important it is to continue to make sacred space for dancing with abandon.

I’ve had to quiet the sad inner child who just wanted to be great, to soothe the part of me who thought that only acknowledgment mattered. That performance was my oxygen. I’ve taught myself how to BE in my body. To bask in the aliveness under my skin. And to lean into the space around me, unafraid to have an experience with the breeze, the sand, the sounds of music as it cleanses me. And to dance like no one is watching even if everyone is.

Thats why I am so passionate about inviting my clients home to their bodies. Beyond choreography, beyond self judgment, beyond the right and wrong way, there is freedom so simple and serene. So lush and delicious. Something all the technique in the world could never have shown me.

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